These days you don’t often meet families with six children. Busy entrepreneur Julie Cole shares why big is no big deal deal to them.
People often ask if we set out to have a big family and the answer is “not really.” I suppose we thought it would be nice to have more than two if it happened and if we could manage it, but didn’t really plan beyond that. Each time we had a baby, we’d wait and see how we coped with the new addition. Inevitably, a few months later we’d look at each other and say, “This is great; I think we can do one more.”
The other reason we have six is because both the Daddy-o and I are missing the “I’m done” gene. My friends seemed to always know when they had their last baby and their family was complete. They simply knew when they were “done.” I expected to experience that as well, but it never happened—not even when I had the sixth. But ultimately nature decided for me. After six C-sections, it was time to call it a day and put this weary uterus into retirement. We looked into a possible adoption after that, but it never worked out for us.
People often make assumptions about big families like ours—that we are religious and let “God” dictate the number of children we should have or that we run a traditional household where mom stays home and does not participate in the traditional workforce. This is not the case for us. We control our own fertility decisions and I am the co-founder of Mabel’s Labels, a successful children’s business that is thriving.
Most people are overwhelmed at the thought of having six kids. I remind them that I didn’t just wake up one day with six kids. They arrived one at a time and the family was able to adjust before the next child appeared. I suppose it’s all relative—I think the house is quiet and boring when two or three of them are not at home!
Sure, having so many kids is a lot of work but the amount of love and fun outweighs all that. I survive because I keep everything in perspective and I don’t sweat the small stuff. I’m the carpool queen, rely heavily on my “village” and I’m not afraid to ask for help. My house is not pristine, my kids are not perfect and my dinners would never be worth sharing on Pinterest. The thing is, I’m 100 percent good with that and wouldn’t want it any other way.
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