How To Deal When Your
Kid Goes Vegetarian

For Christmas I received an unexpected gift. My eleven-year-old daughter announced she’s vegetarian.

It’s not a total surprise.

She’s recently done a few school projects on animal cruelty and is a very empathetic kid.

Our family has been slowly moving towards a more vegetarian diet. We don’t eat meat on Friday (pizza night) or Monday (meatless Monday). I usually eat vegetarian at lunch and breakfast, which means the kids do, too. If you add it up, we likely only eat meat at four of 21 meals a week.

We also never buy meat at the grocery store and are fortunate to have three local butchers that can ID the provenance of what we’re eating. It’s not quite the Michael Pollan ideal of mostly greens, but it’s as close as we’re likely to get.

Once she shared the news, at the dinner table of course, my wife and I quickly agreed that we’d support her. She’s not wrong to be concerned about animals or industrial food production and she’s certainly not wrong to want to reduce the amount of meat we consume.

That said, her announcement did spike a few immediate concerns:

  1. Nutrition – can she get the nutrients, especially, protein she needs?
  2. As she enters her teen years, is this a diet/ body conscience issue?
  3. How can I continue to plan family meals that are simple to prepare and that all four of us can enjoy? (This third one is a bit selfish, I know).

It also sparked an interesting discussion around the family dinner table on how we’d handle meals:

  1. I’m not making separate meals for Kid1; there are times she will have to eat around certain ingredients.
  2. I will increase the number of fully vegetarian meals we eat each week (probably to five a week).
  3. She had to eat turkey at Christmas dinner to help us all avoid what was certainly going to be a very painful conversation with her Albertan grandfather.

As we enter week four of Kid1’s vegetarianism, having cooked meat for just four dinners out of nearly 30, what have we learned?

Going by the number of grilled cheese sandwiches Kid1 has consumed we had no reason to worry about body image issues.

Protein will remain a concern as she’s not a fan of legumes and hates peanut butter (and its substitutes).

Cooking is more of a challenge for me as I learn to use new ingredients and techniques.  I made a great cauliflower gratin but it took me over an hour and dirtied nearly every pot and pan in the house (I’m usually a very efficient one or two pan kinda cook).

The biggest challenge isn’t the absence of meat—it’s that Kid1 doesn’t like many vegetables. A short list of what she’s turned her nose up at and/or disliked: beets, brussel sprouts, eggplant, fennel, hominy, mushrooms, onions, parsnips, pumpkin, rapini, squash, sweet potatoes, turnips, zucchini and cooked carrots. (She’s always been a good, adventurous eater—ordering calf’s brain pasta at The Blackhoof and devouring sweetbreads, but veggies have never been at the top of her list).

The vegetarian options that we regularly eat at home (vegetarian chili, spanokopita, pizza, pasta, burritos, noodles with tofu and greens) need to be expanded as we’re going to get tired of them quickly.

The least successful meals are those where I simply cook a number of meatless dishes. After 40 years of meat and two veg dinners, these dinners feel strangely like there’s a hole in the plate where the protein would go. It’s like the four of us are stuck eating nothing but side dishes. None of us seem happy with these dinners and we tend to leave the table looking for something else to eat or snack on.

The single biggest thing we’ve learned is that our most successful vegetarian meals (in that all four of us enjoyed them and I would definitely make them again) can be put into two distinct categories:

  1. Dishes that come from cuisines that aren’t traditionally meat heavy—curries*, stir fries, pastas, tagines, couscous, etc.
  2. Veggie versions of a dish that originally included meat. The easiest way to describe this is any dish that has some sort of “veggie” as a prefix, e.g. veggie burgers, veggie lasagna and eggplant Parmesan.

*About two weeks into our meatless experiment I swapped out the chicken in butter chicken for tofu. The Boy turned to me mid-meal and, in a voice that can only be described as lustful, asked how good this dinner would be if it included chicken—especially chicken that had been grilled over charcoal. He was all but drooling.

I’ll post some of our favourite vegetarian dinners later this week…

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'How To Deal When Your
Kid Goes Vegetarian' have 6 comments

  1. January 13, 2015 @ 6:31 pm Meredith Jordan

    Great post, Michael. It’s wonderful that you’re supporting Kid1 in this way. You’re a much better parent than me – if this chief cook & bottle washer had to cut out meat – I’d be tendering my resignation as well!


    • Michael Forbes

      January 14, 2015 @ 5:37 pm Michael Forbes

      I hear you. It’s early days, we’ll see how supportive we are by March…she’s such a good kid with very good intentions so we’ll do what we can to make it work for all of us.


  2. January 14, 2015 @ 12:39 am Colleen Nicholson

    Love the support you’re giving your little vegetarian. I waited until I had my degrees finished before announcing my diet change and it’s STILL a little awkward at Thanksgiving. (Though I certainly have support too). I recommend swapping the tofu –after all these years, still consider it “gross”– for potatoes in your butter chicken, a kid-friendly tip I learned while taking an Indian cooking class. And a white bean dip with toasted pita is a protein that whips up quickly, is a great snack and might even change young minds about legumes, which I admit I can be wary of too, sometimes. Good luck!


    • Michael Forbes

      January 14, 2015 @ 5:39 pm Michael Forbes

      My sister became a vegetarian around 1990 and my parents still try to feed her chicken.

      Love the tip about potatoes, it’s a great idea, we’ll try that nex time.


  3. January 14, 2015 @ 11:18 am Abby Green (@AbbyOTR)

    I was about the same age as your daughter when I became a vegetarian, and I’m still at it 30 years later! Now that I cook for my carnivorous husband and sons, it is a bit more challenging. Does your daughter eat eggs? We eat a lot of quiche, omelettes, even French toast lets you sneak in eggs. My other suggestion would be Morningstar Recipe Crumbles – a veggie alternative to ground beef that I use in tacos, sauces, stuffed peppers, etc. Meat-eaters can’t even tell the difference!


    • Michael Forbes

      January 14, 2015 @ 5:41 pm Michael Forbes

      Yes, thankfully she eats eggs. Quiche is one of her favourite things – we’ve even tried to make Spanish tortillas (I have a crazy Jose Andres recipe that uses potato chips that I’m dying to try).

      I’ll look for the Morningstar crumbles, thanks for the tip.


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