Podcast Episode 106: Life in a Polyamorous Family

Podcast Episode 106: Life in A Polyamorous Family

Thanks so much for coming by to check out Episode 106 of The New Family Podcast, an eye-opening conversation about what it means to be polyamorous, what that’s like in the context of family and parenting, and the legal and rights issues that may stand in the way.

Every relationship is different. Some couples may enjoy a vanilla sex life and are happy keeping it pretty standard in the bedroom. Other couples may like to play with toys like those from WinkWink SexToys, or with the power dynamics in the relationship. This might include one person being more dominant while the other is submissive. This sometimes even leads to the couples going to this Etsy store and buying an eternity collar for the submissive partner to wear. In a few relationships, they may want to explore bringing another person in — or even more than one. This is what we call polyamory.

My guest on this episode is Jacki Yovanoff. Jacki is a mom to four spectacular humans-two she gave birth to and two who came as part of a package deal with her partner. She’s a sexuality educator and sex and relationship coach, and today she’s agreed to come on the show to talk to us about being polyamorous and what that means for life with kids.

Jackie shares her personal experiences thoughtfully and candidly, and enlightens us on the terms polyamorous and pansexual, and touches on some of the legal and rights issues that surround the individuals and families who identify as poly.

Here are some great resources related to my discussion with Jacki.

Jacki’s research paper, “What About the Children?!
Children in Polyamorous Families: Stigma, Myths, and Realities”

Facebook community Jackie co-founded, DIY Relationships

Another polyamorous family featured in our Thousand Families Project

CBC report: Canadian polyamorists face unique legal challenges, research reveals

CBC report: Polyamorists hope for future legal recognition

Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson

Jacki’s Favourite Parenting Advice
“I think the biggest one is just to trust my gut and do what I feel is best or what my partner and I feel is best. But I think the best piece of advice that’s more specific is just to answer kids questions when they come up, trusting that they can handle certain things. And not hiding life from them until they get older, including topics like death or sex or sexuality. I think kids can handle more than we give them credit for. By omitting topics of conversation, that puts an automatic tick in the ‘that’s a shameful thing’ column. And being honest and saying, ‘I don’t actually know the answer to that question that you’re asking me, but I’ll find out and we’ll talk about it later.'”

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Brandie is a long-time parenting editor, writer and spokesperson. Most recently editor-in-chief of Canadian Family magazine, Brandie has also been the parenting and relationships editor for the Toronto Star, founding editor of two Toronto Star websites, and an editor for Today's Parent. Brandie is a single mother of two in Toronto and a frequent television and radio guest on parenting topics. A former digital director at House & Home Media, she also consults on digital audience engagement. Contact her here. View all posts by