Podcast Episode 154: Why You Should Ignore Your Kids More

Thanks so much for coming by to check out Episode 154 of The New Family Podcast where we talk about whether more really is more when it comes to the attention should we give to our kids.

This episode addresses the question of whether we’re paying too much attention to our kids! I’m joined by Dr. Catherine Pearlman, a family coach and assistant professor of social work at Brandman University in California. She is the author of a new book called Ignore It! How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction. Her syndicated “Dear Family Coach” column has appeared in The Wall Street Journal and many regional parenting magazines as well. Dr. Pearlman explains how parents are over-disciplining behaviours that they should ignore and under-disciplining behaviours that they should address, and how selectively ignoring can improve not only our effectiveness but our parental satisfaction.

Here are some resources related to this episode.

Dr. Catherine Pearlman’s book Ignore It! How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

Dr. Pearlman’s website The Family Coach

Dr. Pearlman’s blog

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Dr. Pearlman’s Favourite Parenting Advice

“I’m going to think of people who were kind of mentors to me, who had children before I did and when I think of my bestfriend, Ellie, and my sister — one thing that they always did is that in a restaurant, they had tons of games, toys and activities. There was never an iPhone or ignoring their kids at restaurants, it was like really family together time. And I have become an addict with little games and toys that can really fit in my pocket book that we can just use in restaurants. And we’ve come up with all kinds of fun games and, actually, time out eating dinner as a family has been some of our best time, so I’m grateful for that little advice.”

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Brandie is a long-time parenting editor, writer and spokesperson. Most recently editor-in-chief of Canadian Family magazine, Brandie has also been the parenting and relationships editor for the Toronto Star, founding editor of two Toronto Star websites, and an editor for Today's Parent. Brandie is a single mother of two in Toronto and a frequent television and radio guest on parenting topics. A former digital director at House & Home Media, she also consults on digital audience engagement. Contact her here. View all posts by