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Thanks so much for coming by to check out Episode 156 of The New Family Podcast where we talk to acclaimed author Gretchen Rubin about how understanding the different ways people respond to expectations can help us with our parenting.
For this very special episode, we’re delighted to be joined by author Gretchen Rubin, whose book The Happiness Project was a runaway hit and number one New York Times Bestseller. She’s also the woman behind a wildly popular blog as well as a number of other books on habits and human nature, and the podcast Happier, which she co-hosts with her sister, Elizabeth Craft.
Gretchen’s latest book, The Four Tendencies, puts forth a new personality framework based on how individuals respond to expectations. It offers us some really important clues for figuring out what motivates our kids, and how that jives with how we meet expectations ourselves. This knowledge helps us be more tolerant of and get on better with others, as well as how to be more effective in encouraging our kids to complete their homework, pick up their toys or practice an instrument.
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Gretchen’s Best Parenting Advice
“I asked all my listeners of the Happier Podcast, ‘What’s your advice for sending a child off to college?’ And the best advice [I got] — and this is something that is true from the time you have a newborn baby — was when somebody said, ‘This is an end but it’s also a beginning and you should look forward to this as a new exciting chapter in your family life. You’re going to have new adventures, you’ll have your new favorite restaurants, you’ll have your inside jokes — you’ll have everything that you share. Some people think it’s the end of childhood but it’s the beginning of something else. And by the way, this will pass very, very quickly so enjoy it while it’s happening.’ So don’t waste it being full of regret; every end is also a beginning and only through change can we grow. My other advice is to have professional pictures taken of your children. You take so many quick pictures and you think, ‘oh they’re amazing’ but in the end, a professional photograph that’s well-lit on nice paper by a professional is so much better.”
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