Podcast Episode 188: Updating Models of Masculinity
– A Chat With a Dad Who Came Out Later in Life

Thanks so much for coming by to check out Episode 188 of The New Family Podcast where we explore changing definitions of masculinity from the point of view of a therapist and single parent.

I’m delighted to introduce my guest for this episode, father of two Matthew Rippeyoung. Matthew wrote a very compelling 1,000 Families post for The New Family recently. In that post, and in this episode, Matthew shares about his transition into single parenthood, and also a little about entering into a same-sex partnership later on.

As it happens, Matthew is a therapist, but he’s with us on the podcast mostly to chat about his own lived experience, including those evolutions in his family and some compelling ideas about giving models of masculinity a needed update. Matthew also talks to us about raising boys with the feminist values he’s always shared with his former wife, and about how he got into one of his favourite hobbies — knitting!

Here are some resources related to this episode.

Matthew’s 1000 Families article

Matthew’s website

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Matthew’s Favourite Parenting Advice

“When my wife was pregnant with our first, one of the program assistants in our department said, ‘You know, you can never really make one big mistake that changes the course of everything.’ Of course you’re going to make mistakes, but all of it is repairable. You don’t have to try to do things perfectly. You’ll muddle along. And that kind of fit with the psychological theories I had studied in graduate school. It’s not even ideal for children to have perfect parents. It’s how quickly you jump in for the recovery afterwards that really matters, because it’s in some of those empathic failures that children learn how to rely on themselves and grow and develop. Obviously you’re not going to put a three-year-old behind the wheel of a car… but in a lot of the ways that we make mistakes as parents, it gives kids an opportunity to figure out their own stuff. So as long as we’re there, as long as we’re good enough, as long as we’re willing to see our contribution, it’s a long-term relationship.”

Cover photo by Levi Saunders on Unsplash

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About Brandie Weikle

Brandie is a long-time parenting editor, writer and spokesperson. Most recently editor-in-chief of Canadian Family magazine, Brandie has also been the parenting and relationships editor for the Toronto Star, founding editor of two Toronto Star websites, and an editor for Today's Parent. Brandie is a single mother of two in Toronto and a frequent television and radio guest on parenting topics. A former digital director at House & Home Media, she also consults on digital audience engagement. Contact her here. View all posts by

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